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Dear
Jealousy,
I
feel as if I have known you since I was little. I can remember you as early as
the age of five. I remember being jealous of cars, clothes, and nicer houses.
As I got older the emotion stayed. I found myself jealous of cute noses, blond
hair, skinny legs, non-strict parents, friends who had their own cars, and people
who had cell phones in college. There were also times I found myself jealous of
kids who had no conscience. I just wanted to be normal and not walk around
college being called “Ned Flanders” from the Simpsons.
You,
jealousy seem to be a constant in my life.
Here
I sit 2 days away from turning 38 and I still find myself wrestling with you. I
am jealous of moms who seem to parent better than I do, bloggers who have quick
success, and groups of woman who have incredible ministries on a global scale.
Recently
you have reared your ugly head about a specific group of woman bloggers and
dreamers, many of whom I look forward to meeting at Relevant 2011. I watch
their interactions, their stories, their opportunities, their tweets and I just
want “in”.
I
was telling my husband about this misplaced jealousy the other day and since he
is never one to just let me sit in a “woe is me” place he simply said “STOP
being jealous and put some action behind your desire.”
What?
You mean I can’t just sit in my pity party?
As
I sat there pondering his words I realized that at the heart of jealousy is
fear.
I
was jealous of cute noses because I feared no one would marry someone with a
large honker.
I
was jealous of cool clothes because I feared I wouldn’t fit in with my re-sale
shop clothes.
AND
I
am jealous of these woman because I fear I won’t see the kind of success
modeled in them.
Fear
drives my jealousy and fear drives me nuts. Not a fan!
I
had the honor of hearing Chris Spradlin from Epic Parent speak this weekend and
his topic was fear. He hit it out of the ballpark. You can listen here.
His
opening scripture hit me smack between the eyes.
“
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love and
self discipline.” 1 Timothy 1:7
While
I am not a Bible scholar I feel I would be perfectly safe to also say God has
not given us a spirit of jealousy.
My
point being that God did not design us to live in a place of jealousy and I
dare say He sees it as ugly.
Jealousy,
you have no place in my life! Be gone!
With
Joy, Carey
I
don't have any quick fix to rid your life of jealousy and I would be
faking it if I tried to guide you in this area. Here are a few things I have been
trying when this stinky emotion hits!
1. Give
thanks!
Take
a time out in the midst of jealous moments to tell God thank you for ALL you do
have. Remembering the large and small blessings can help pull you out of your
pity party. Giving thanks always brings
me back to reality.
2. Trust God.
Trust
that God knows you and knows what your heart can and can’t handle. He also
knows what will create and shape character in us. Learn from other and trust in
Him.
3. Pray.
Do
you find yourself jealous because you see someone else running with the desire
of your heart? Well as my hubby said STOP the jealousy and START the praying.
Ask God to help you bring that calling, itch, craving to fruition and make it
reality.
After
you do all that then start back at number 1 again and never stop.
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